What if Your Child is Gay?

Posted: October 29, 2014 in Uncategorized

Unless you’ve been on a deserted island for the last decade or so, you’ve probably noticed that the issue of homosexuality in our country (and the Western world) is kind of a hot topic. Since I was a child in the 90’s, we have seen a massive shift in the sexual ethics of our society so that homosexuality (which has always been present) is now a major topic of public debate and discussion and a litmus test to determine whether you are close-minded or “enlightened”. With the legalization of so called “gay marriage” in so many states (and the certainty that it will eventually be in all the states) and the normalization of a worldview that embraces homosexuality as beautiful through the media, the Christian today must figure out how to respond with grace and truth. Hiding from or ignoring this issue isn’t an option. We must choose how we will respond, letting our views be shaped by either the culture we live in or the word of God. Choosing the latter will most certainly result in a mild form of persecution and labeling.

But the discussion of homosexuality in the culture and regarding the laws and statutes of our country is different than the discussion about how to actually engage with those we love who identify as a homosexual. Typically, Christians feel that the two options available to them in how to respond are alienation or affirmation. But a biblical response should result in neither. Alienation shouldn’t be an option because we are called to love our neighbor as ourselves and not be self-righteous Pharisees who pretend we have no sin issues to deal with ourselves. The good news of Jesus is only good news because we are jacked up sinners in need of grace. As we proclaim the good news to a lost world we must do so remembering we are no better than those who are lost, but we needed to be redeemed as well! Simultaneously however, we shouldn’t respond with affirmation because to do so would be to deny God’s word which sets the standard for our lives. We are called to show compassion, but must not compromise in the name of showing “love” as defined by our culture.

Many today will say they are a Christian and are gay and they will get much support and affirmation from liberal Protestant churches who let the culture dictate their values and convictions. The question we must ask in thinking through this is, “What is a Christian?” People will give varying answers to that question, but one of the necessary parts of being a Christian is repentance. This is agreeing with God that our sin is awful and offensive and evil and committing to turn away from it as we trust in the work of Christ on our behalf. The person who is unrepentant over sin in their life (regardless of what that sin is) shows by their lives and words that the profession of faith they have made is not genuine and hasn’t resulted in a transformed life. The issue with the person who lives in unrepentant sin and says God doesn’t care and accepts them the way they are is that they seem to have molded a god in their image instead of relying on God’s word to describe Himself and His standards.

With that being said, we need to have a category as Christians for those who struggle with same sex attraction but are seeking to fight against their flesh just as the heterosexual fighting against lust is. We also need not pretend like homosexuality is the only sexual sin that must be addressed. With the prevalence of men addicted to pornography, women addicted to sexual romance novels, and cohabitation taking place in the lives of people who claim to be filled with the Spirit of God, our fight for a Christian sexual ethic is much larger than fighting culture wars over homosexuality.

This is a heavy topic and I am thankful for Dr. Russell Moore, president of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention. He is committed to giving biblical guidance to Christians on how to think through issues such as these. In this article, he paves a way for how a parent who is a Christian should respond to their child who is gay.

Check it out: http://www.russellmoore.com/2014/06/06/what-if-your-child-is-gay/


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