7 Lies About Homeschoolers

Posted: November 11, 2014 in Uncategorized

We’re going to homeschool in the future. I’ve been converted because I used to make fun of homeschoolers. If you’ve thought something negative about homeschoolers, I’ve probably said it to a homeschooler publicly.

This video seeks to debunk lies about homeschoolers and it’s pretty funny.

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There are times when one (or all) of my children will annoy me. Typically this scenario plays out when I am making rest and relaxation an idol and it is taken away from me by a whining little girl who is fussing about everything. Occasionally it plays out when I tell one of my kids to “stop doing ________!” for the 1000th time. I think to myself of how astounding it is that this hasn’t stuck in their head yet after me telling them over and over and over!

And then God reminds me that He does the same thing with me. All day every day. Seeing the neediness and rebellion and selfishness of my children has forced me to look in the mirror almost daily and remember that I’m no different. When I get so angry over little things my kids do that are getting under my skin, it reminds me of the grace of God that He has shown to me, an undeserving sinner.

I believe that becoming a parent has been one of the most sanctifying things in my life. Just as I didn’t realize how selfish I was until I had to share space with my wife when we got married, I didn’t realize how rebellious I was until I look into the eyes of my toddler telling me know or doing what I’ve told them not to again and being in need of discipline.

I believe that being a parent teaches us to be better children of God and this article explains some of the ways this is true: http://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/parenting-teaches-us-to-be-better-children-god

If you’re a parent you have felt it. That uneasy feeling when your child does something inappropriate or out of control or defiant in public. That feeling when you know everyone in the room is looking at you, the parent of this hot mess on display, who clearly have failed at parenting. Have you experienced the meltdown in the store, restaurant, or church? When it starts to happen what do you think? It’s moments like these where as Christian parents we need to check our hearts that love to worship the idol of the approval of others. Our role as parents is not to make ourselves look good and pretend we have it all together, but it is to love our kids by teaching them and correcting them.

This article calls us to remember these truths and I would encourage you to check it out: http://thewardrobedoor.com/2014/11/parenting-sanctification-reputation-mind.html

Trick or Treat

Posted: October 31, 2014 in Uncategorized

Check out this brief and creative video about the history of Halloween:

The One on Halloween

Posted: October 31, 2014 in Uncategorized

My wife and I have yearly debates about Halloween. We agree we don’t want to mess with Santa Clause and the Easter Bunny because those distract from the true purpose we celebrate those holidays for. But Halloween is different. One of us is more for it while the other leans against participating in it. We’ve heard the arguments that “this is the devil’s holiday” and Christians shouldn’t participate or they are supporting paganism and witchcraft. Instead, the theory seems to go that we should keep our lights off and seclude ourselves from the community and our neighbors even though this is the only time they come door to door to our houses. We’ve heard the arguments that you should celebrate Reformation Day by dressing your kids up like Martin Luther and so forth. That’s cool I guess and I’m all about the Reformation, but we’re not going to do that. We’ve also seen Christians who participate in the holiday in ways that could be defined as “worldly” and seem to throw their convictions out the window every October 31 which doesn’t seem like a legit option.

So where have we landed? The last two years, we have spent a little money and passed out candy with our kids, trying to teach our young children that this is a way to love our neighbors. We don’t trick or treat, but we let them dress up in things we already have (usually thrown together on the day of) and let them eat a few pieces of candy (rare in our home). We let them paint some pumpkins (and their bodies) with finger paint. And then we move on.

Christians might have different convictions on Halloween and there is rightly freedom to do so, but here are 8 guidelines for what I think the Christian should and shouldn’t do on Halloween each year (these are not inspired by God!).

  1. Don’t be the person who condemns everybody who lets their kids trick-or-treat. They’re not doing it to worship Satan, they are making memories. If this is you, chill out.
  2. Don’t miss an opportunity to love your neighbors while you seclude yourselves from the world you are called to win for Christ.
  3. Don’t give kids a gospel track without giving them candy. If you’re going to do that, just leave your lights off.
  4. If you hand out gospel tracks, don’t hand out cheap candy. Get the good stuff.
  5. If you are a Christian parent, use discernment in what you let your kid dress up as. I know they look precious in their horror film outfit, but seriously? If they are dressed as someone who is dead or has recently been the star in a slasher film, we probably need to talk about finding some better role models for your kids.
  6. If you are the parent of a female, please don’t use Halloween as an opportunity to drop the modesty rule and show everybody what she’s working with. I know it’s hard to find a costume as they get older that’s not supposed to be a sexier version of the children costumes. Life is hard, be creative (and modest).
  7. And while we’re at it, teenagers, you are too old to go trick-or-treating. I’ve only got so much candy to give out and your time has passed. Get a job and go buy some candy yourself and stop dressing up in scary costumes to try to scare little kids. And while we’re on teenagers and little kids: on all the other days of the year when public parks are open with playground equipment that has appropriate ages posted for who should and should not be playing, please read and adhere to the signs. I know it’s cool to hang at the park with your friends, but get off the playground equipment when my 3 year old wants to slide. Yield to the kids. It was built for them. I digress…
  8. And while we’re on the topic of age and modesty: Adult Christian, you are way too old for this. Sure, dress up at work if you have a themed day or if you’re going to pass out candy, feel free to have fun. But remember you are Christian who is supposed to represent Christ with what you wear and how you act. To the ladies in particular: put some clothes on. The only time you should be a “sexy (fill in the blank with your costume)” is with your husband. Not on social media for the world to see. You’re not attracting the right attention if this is you.

For those of you who live in communities that celebrate Halloween on the actual day or weekend instead of a week in advance, Have a Happy Halloween!

Wake Up Parents!

Posted: October 29, 2014 in Uncategorized

This is a Public Service Announcement From Nick:

Dear Parent,

It is foolish to give your pre-teen or teenager who has hormones that are raging unrestricted and unmonitored access to the internet. Please stop allowing that. Be their parent, not their friend. Protect them from sexual temptation. Please don’t assume they don’t struggle with that. They do. That’s not legalism, it’s common sense.

Here’s a guide in what to do if this brief letter applies to you: http://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/teens-and-unrestricted-access-time-to-repent

Thanks,

Nick

In the last few weeks we have seen pastors in Houston being demanded to turn over sermons relating to their disapproval of policies put forward that go against God’s word and a chapel being threatened with imprisonment for not agreeing to marry a same-sex couple. With these threats against religious liberty and with the state stepping into an area that is outside their jurisdiction according to God, we should rightly ask the question, “How should we respond?” Should a Christian defend their rights or would that go against the peacemaking, “turn the other cheek” ethic we are called to live with in this life?

Pastor Kevin DeYoung tackles this question by looking at the book of Acts and how the Apostle Paul models relating to the state in issues like these. It would be well worth your time to read and think through this issue as it is likely this is just the birth pangs of religious liberty being redefined and eroding in a culture that is becoming increasingly hostile to the Christian faith.

Check it out: http://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/kevindeyoung/2014/10/24/is-it-wrong-for-christians-to-defend-their-rights/